"Feel" Your Voice
(the middle ground)
an area of compromise or possible agreement between two extreme positions, especially political ones:
"each party wants to capture the votes of those perceived as occupying the middle ground"
the middle distance of a painting or photograph."
I ask me: What do I want – deep inside? And you, what do you want deep inside?
Can you unfold your mind, in the next few minutes and unleash your attention on what you want to experience next? Quiet now. Go deeper, deeper. Go below the surface. How would you like to feel?
I’m going to pose some questions. The man who put these questions together has the last name of Proust and it’s totally conceivable you’ve run into these before. I’m selecting out just a few of them, and for them to serve you best right now you’ll want to take the bald first gut response that comes up for you and make a quick note of what that is.
Charging right in:
37. How would you like to die?
17. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
3. Which historical figure do you most identify with?
24. What is your most treasured possession?
32. Who are your favorite writers?
1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?
9. What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
11. What do you dislike most about your appearance?
38. What is your motto?
25. What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
I confess I’m truly curious. I would so love to know your answers to these questions – even just a couple, maybe just a few. I’m going to share at least a few of my answers with you because if you’ve stayed with me thus far, surely you must be curious, too. By the way, search online “Proust questions” if you want all the questions, or just to read other folks’ answers. And please indulge me in the comments section if you’re willing to share your answers.
Would you like to know how I came across them? Listening to training for writers they were recommended as a way to find one’s own voice. For the speaker of that session, the term “voice” meant to find one’s “feeling” about one’s subject matter. Her encouragement to anyone with a desire to write was to write if he/she could answer the question: “Would a reader be able to benefit?” As I thought about that, I realized it seemed to me that I would benefit for any reader able to benefit. Of course, I might not realize that, if no one told me, but I find myself more and more eager all the time to find “like minds”.
That led to my trying to understand that, as I had not anticipated growing older and wanting more like minds. As one’s parents transition to no longer being with us, and their siblings and their parents, and perhaps some of our siblings, certainly some of our friends, former classmates, and definitely those who used to entertain us and inspire us, hm, now it begins to make more sense. I’m guessing nearly all of us can relate to being entertained by Robin Williams. For me there was the additional tie of mental illness as people wrote of him and different numerous depressive periods. I couldn’t help but chuckle about how many of us were tempted to go off our meds just listening to his manic rants. It’s easy to delude oneself of one’s brilliance when it’s clear no one can keep up with us.
Now, for a little sharing. I found it interesting my first gut thought in answer to how I would like to die would be to fall off a mountain top and manage to enjoy the scenery on the way down. What was jolting was to read that someone answered she preferred dying in her sleep. I would have thought that was me, too. Perhaps I need more adventure in my life at this current time.
The historical figures I relate most closely with that first came to mind were two scriptural miscreants most people loathe, (I always have, too), while also loathing that I relate to their having hard hearts and stiff necks. I notice when I don’t want to do something, especially for someone else’s benefit, I feel very stubborn and rooted in my spot.
My motto may give you a giggle. Having taken years to settle on a life’s purpose I could fully embrace, I resorted to “Brainy Quotes” for inspiration and came up not only with a motto but end of life agenda towards caring for my skin. Yes, my skin. And, no, I’m not even going to mention “better late than never”.
I’m just about to wrap this up now, but I just have to throw out there a couple of questions of my own for you to ponder.
Would confidence be wanted? What elements make up the confidence you would desire?
And finally, do you feel you know yourself just a smidge better? If so, how will that benefit you?
"9th Verse of Tao Te Ching
To keep on filling
Is not as good as stopping.
Overfilled, the cupped hands drip,
Better to stop pouring.
Sharpen a blade too much
and its edge will soon be lost.
Fill your house with jade and gold
and it brings insecurity.
Puff yourself with honor and pride
and no one can save you from a fall.
Retire when the work is done;
this is the way of heaven.